I’m not talking about pregnant women who organize everything to be uber prepared for the upcoming baby arrival. I’m talking about Nesting for Empty Nesters. What do I mean? As an empty nester, I am planning, organizing, and thinking (aka P.O.T) a lot more than I use to. I’m sure it has to do with having a little more free time. (My mother always said idle time was dangerous.)
This is what I’ve been nesting about:
The Future. This means making sure my life is in order should I keel over at any minute. This means meeting with estate planners and financial advisors to figure out how to pay the least amount of taxes so I can die with the most money to- option 1- leave it to my kids or option 2- give it all to charity. (or a combination of both. In case my kids are reading this, option 2 is always available!)
I also ask other friends about how they are planning for the future? Over several bottles of wine, we ponder the topics of Do you help your children financially and if so when? Do you treat your children equally? And the all-important question, when do your kids start paying their own cell phone bill???!!
Travel Destinations. I want to go places and see things before I have a health issue that keeps me grounded. Right now, I can climb, walk, swim, run, and pretty much go anywhere I want. But I know that in the blink of an eye, a slight misstep, wrong turn or cat under foot, can result in an injury that would prevent me from seeing such places as The Great Wall of China or Macchu Picchu where stairs, uneven ground or a steep incline are par for the course. I’m saving the riverboat cruises for later! Right now, any destination is available to me but it won’t always be and I know this.
Also, I’m P.O.T (planning, organizing and thinking) about vacations that I want to take my kids on too. I have great memories of vacations that my parents took my husband and I on, as young adults, that we could never have afforded on our own. Where to go next? How much vacation do the kids get? All these questions I ruminate about.
I am thinking about downsizing and what that would look like. Really, it is a question of “where is all my sh** going to go?” I have been collecting things I thought I would pass down, but really, my kids are not that into MY stuff. So, a slow purge has been occurring, and when they finally want that silver gravy boat, they will have to buy one on Ebay.
My husband and I don’t need as much space as we use to but downsizing brings those questions into my head such as, “Where will the kids sleep when they do come to stay? What about space for the grandkids? (of which I have none and don’t expect any soon-and if my kids are reading this far- pay attention to this please!)
I am P.O.T about new things to try. Maybe it is kite surfing, bourbon tasting or exploring a city close to me that I’ve never been. Less things and more experiences are what I’m nesting about.
I am P.O.T about my health. I’m thinking less about dinner and more about eating healthier, simpler, and much less than we used to. I nest about which foods have the most antioxidants? And when did I start thinking about fiber? Should I be using essential oils? Oh, so much to think about.
Lastly, I’m nesting about my friends. I think about relationships more and how hard it is to make friends, truly good friends. I think about what I need to do to be a better friend. And, I try to make time for those friends who may actually need a call or visit rather than a text.
Nesting, as defined by the Collins English Dictionary, is the tendency to arrange one’s immediate surroundings to create a place where one feels secure, comfortable or in control. That sums it up!